♥New Additions♥

Hey Loves!

A lot has happened since our last encounter. So recently found out I was prego…GASP…yea I know; not a hard pill to swallow at first. However, I am excited and so is everyone else. My baby is already surrounded by an amazing support system full of more than enough love.

Sometimes things happen in life that take you by surprise and there is nothing you can do other than be proactive in adapting to the situation. My initial reaction was Oh Lawdddd what am I going to do, I don’t want to disappoint anyone. But no one is disappointed, everyone is still just as proud of me as they’e always been. “Wooo,” right?!

While everyone else is ecstatic, you know my arc enemy (lol) is not at all. But in all actually this really doesn’t concern this individual. This was not at all a ploy or a planned act. I…no WE are excited and anxiously awaiting our little mini.

Anyhoo, I am approximately 9 weeks today!!YAYYYYYYY!! I have a small little bump. Although barely noticeable it still warms my heart. I will try my best to regularly blog and give you all updates of how far along I am and how the baby is growing.

Still don’t know the sex of the baby as it is too early. Kind of wanted a boy but starting to kind of want a girl. Can the world handle two of me? Guess we’ll have to see won’t we, lol?!

Until Next Time…Save all the Drama fo yo Momma, lol!

9 Weeks

Your amazing growing baby has been accepted into to the fetus-club, a very exclusive and exiting new stage in their prenatal development. Basically, this means the little sweet pea has graduated from swimming embryo creature to a recognizable human being! This week in particular, the irises of their little eyes can function, but (frustratingly for them?) their eyelids remain fused shut for a while yet. Their external ears are formed and their inner ears are now filled with fluid—so your little one is already developing their sense of balance. Your baby’s little swimmer legs are still relatively, although other bodily developments are going forward at a nice pace: their kidney is actually functioning now, which means they’ve started urinating (this might seem charming now but wait till you have to start buying diapers!).

The Game

“If you’re not playing the game…you’re being played”

This  is a quote that i recently stumpled across while on facebook. It really plagued my mind for a few days after. My first thoughts were is it really a game?

After  much thought I’m still puzzled. Apart of me strongly believes that it is. However, a larger part of me wanst to believes that there really are some geniune people.

Often you here ppl say “Niggas aint shit,” “Bitches aint shit.” People attempt to justify they’re “playing” with the shortcomings of others. But I mean if you out here doing you and messing with everybody all because “Niggas/Bitches aint shit.” Well from the looks of it you aint shit either because you’re doing the same things. The game aspect of this specific situation comes into play because ppl exhibit the afore mentioned behavior to avoid feeling like their loosing in a situations. They act this way in search of feeling like they’ve won some sort of game.

Another thing people do is equate a lack of trust for someone to a reason to cheat or mess around. You know to be on the safe side. That way if it comes out that the other person is infact being unfaithful, they have other options and will be less likely to feel defeated; once again mirroring a game.

Men just like women have certain things they do to get what they want, commonly known as “game.”

Everyone uses what they have to get what they want or where they want to be. From that point on the participate in this “game” to make sure they remain on top and won’t end up loosing.

When Does The Game Stop?

Does It Ever?

Will there always be someone who’s playing the game and someone who’s being played?

Which one are you?

Love; A requirement…But From Who?

LOVE!

A four letter word that we all could go on discussing, both good and bad, for extended periods of time. The one thing society portrays to us as being truly magical.

Lately, I have been hearing and reading several people talking and tweeting about love and relationships. Some posses a strong desire while others are completely opposed. Despite the reasoning, it amazes me how consumed we are with LOVE!

 Being in Love:

When two people feel that they are genuinely in love with one another it’s an indescribable feeling. You feel like you’ve found that one person that is able to understand you inside and out. This person makes you feel comfortable in any situation. They are a support system. When you feel all else has failed you this is the one person that still makes you smile. This individual is someone you are willin to go to hell and high water for because you never want to lose them.

Being in love is only human; nothing wrong with it at all…

BUT

Before you give someone else love, you must love yourself first!

Love is a requirement!!

Every single person despite what he/she may say or think longs to be loved by someone (parent, sibling, significant other, self)

However, the love that is most required is

SELF LOVE!

Love yourself to your fullest capacity. Life is full or disappointmens and hardships and you have to commit to yourself to make it through all the BS that comes with this thing called Life.

 Before a relationship be content with yourself, don’t get so caught up and needing or wanting a significant other. No one can love you until you love you. So lets focus less on relationships and focus more on self-love, besides it the one that’s required the most!

 

A Letter to My Sisters

This blog post was inspired by the deeply disturbing self-representations of young black women on social networks. I usually see things and either laugh out it or do shake my head. However, I refuse to keep brushing it off to the side; it must be addressed. This post is specifically for my sisters, my fellow black sisters…you must do better!

Social Network Drama
Im sure we’ve all played a part in digital drama at some point in our lives. I myself used to stay in it, but then I grew up and realized how stupid I looked. Arguing in a public setting over anything is foolish, and when its essentially over nothing (which most of you are fighting over) is down right stupid. Exchanging comments or a tweet back and forth makes you appear to not have a life especially over a male. If both of you all or however many of you it is are arguing and saying the same things, chances are he’s probably messing with both of yall and tell yall the same bullsh*t. Stop being stupid and wake the hell up. No one is worth you making yourself look like a complete ass; and yes you do. Please don’t try to justify your situation because it is definitely the same, you are not different; cut it out! You should never feel like you have anything to prove to anyone, so if someone comes at you via the internet, laugh at their silly ways. I mean seriously who argues anymore?

Being Overly Sexual via Social Networks
This one is a biggie, especially on twitter…you must do better! Its ok to have an opinion and openly express yourself, its all in how you do so. There is no need for to slut on social networks. I mean seriously think before you tweet, because you’re making yourself sound like a real hoe. No one needs to know your entire sex life; a little discretion is more than welcomed. You make yourself look so nasty when you tweet inappropriate things. No one wants to be associated with the female who gets down right freak nasty on twitter. What if your mom sees this? What if you working for a company who looks at your twitter? I know you shouldn’t care what people think, but maybe you should at least take it into consideration. Oh and ladies, its never ok to talk about how good you did your man last night or how good he did you. You don’t impress anyone; you depreciate your self value.
Oh and pictures, please please please do not have your assets all out in the open, leave something to the imagination; you’ll be desired more. Your body is sacred and should be treated as much. You can still be sexy and classy!

Betraying Each Other

This one in particular eats me from the inside out…you must do better!

If he has a girlfriend and you know good and well he does, why the hell are you sleeping with him. Its not cute or cool…its trifling!! Yea you may have that one friend in your ear saying its okay, but guess what…she’s a hoe…just like you! Don’t walk around talking bout how n*ggas aint sh*t because you aren’t either hun. You are just as well off as he is. Oh and in case you didn’t know or no one ever told you, you aren’t the one running the game, he is. When its all said and done he is going to try to keep his girlfriend and then you will be all type of hoes and the one he cares nothing about. You will be played in the end…trust me! You aren’t making yourself look good at all. All you doing is being a hoe that he knows is gone let him do whatever and will never be able to ask for anything. You are opening up shop and making no profit; there is no business that will succeed that way. Then if his girl is really upset, you just might get ya ass kicked; is it worth all that?

Dear My Sisters,
I’m not writing this to bash you, I’m simply writing this to raise awareness on the negative ways you are portraying yourselves.
YOU MUST DO BETTER
Do you behave this way simply for attention or is it because you think its cute?
ITS NOT, BY ANY MEANS
You make yourself look foolish. You want to find a way to stand out do something productive. Show that you can be sexy without being the chick on twitter who everyone knows is a freak because she talks brags about it or the girl who plays the tough role on facebook and tries to curse everyone out.
STOP IT
RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW!
In order to receive respect you must command it. You can expect anyone to respect you or take you seriously when you clearly have no self-respect. Carry yourself as a young black woman whom is destined for success and knows her self-worth.
YOU MUST DO BETTER!!

Forgive and Forget?

Its been a while since we last met but I’m back; at least for now!

Recent events that have occurred have left me plagued with a question:

Can we forgive and forget and if so how?

I’m currently in a situation where someone is upset with the fact that I have been unable to completely let go of past mistakes they have made. I understand where this person is coming from but what I seemingly cannot figure out is how to forget, or even if its possible. I have forgiven this person and I do not constantly discuss the past; at least I don’t think so.

I don’t mean to make excuses but I know my past has a lot, in fact too much, to do with some of the feelings I have toward certain situations in addition to trust issues. However, I refuse to let it ruin a good thing. These are two completely different people and the situations share zero similarities so why is it hard for me to treat them this way?! I’m still trying to figure that out myself.

I feel that we as people allow our minds to focus in and replay the negative aspects of life as if its a broken record that you want to turn off but you’re just too comfortbale to do so.

We must let go of the past and proceed forward, I am very much so aware of this, just don’t know how and I apologize for that. I’m not perfect in no way shape or form and I know you aren’t either. So with that said right here right now I am vowing to you and myself to let things go regardless of how hard it may be. Dwelling in the past will do nothing but hinder a future and a future is what I want more than anything and I’m willing to do whatever in my power to contribute to that!

Freeing my mind and heart of the past in order to allow the futre in!

Fat or Thick? Do You Know the Difference?

So as spring break is quickly approaching I’m beginning to consider what kind of bathing suits I want in addition to getting excited about SHOPPING. There’s only one issue; I’m not skinny ke anymore. I’ve always had a butt but now I have all these thighs too. Everyone tells me how I’ve “filled out nicely,” but I don’t like it all. So with that said I’m going to try to tone up; not really slim down because I am think lol. Seriously tho operation spring break starts AHORA!!!

You are all probably wondering why I titled this blog entry the way I did…well be paciente I’m getting there!

Fat or Thick?
1. If you get out of break afterr walking across campus…chances are you’re FAT
2. If in the midst of you’re “thickness” there’s a roll here and there…its FAT
3. Never ever ever ever ever turned down food…FAT
4. Get mad because you can’t find your clothing size anywhere…FAT
5. If all of your bottoms AND tops are getting small…you’re getting (yep) FAT

Now I could go on and on and on but my fingers are tired. Lazy huh? Nope just borderline FAT. #ont be offended after reading this because I too am guilty of some of these things. However, we cannot just sit back and let the fat takeover.We must get it tight so we can be…(you guessed it) THICK. So let’s get to it bitches!!!!!

Kanye said it best…
“1 and 2 and 3 and 4, get them sit ups right”

♥ 2010 ♥

 

Hello World, Its beea while since we last spoke…I pomise I will do better with this whole blog thing.

So 2009, came and weNt just like that and 2010 is upon us. Before this new year filled wIth opportunity really gets going I must put 2009 completely to rest! Every situation i have endured has taught me a valuable lesson. So here it goes…

Relationships:

After being in a relationship with a nothing ass piece of shit, I was finally able to move on and find someone whom I love and adore. That one person who completes me in all aspects of my life. Now as you’v read in previous blogs things have been a whole lot less than perfect but NOTHING is. This past year together took us to the edge of the cliff at times but together as a cohesive unit we made it. We were faced with individuals who cringed at the thought us being together. Those who love to comment on situations they know nothing about. To them I say fck you for your lack of support but most importantly thanks for the motivation. This relationship has taught me alot about myself but the most mportant lesson of all is that in order to be fully committed to one thing you must let the past go and move forward. May this new year be filled with memories that will stay in our hearts forever!

Friendships:

Lets start with the bad…you know who you are! Im not gonna verbally attack anyone because at this point you are insignificant to my life so simply put…KARMA IS A BITCH♥

The good…I appreciate all of you with everything inside me…THANKS a million times over!!

This year has taught me to expect the unexpected with friendships. Some of my closest friends are people I would have never guessed.

Issues:

These are all the people who like to make things difficult…you’re 2009 and i left you there. You no longer get the joy of pissing me off. If you dont like me or something I did, I apologize but I really honestly dont care. It is what it is, get over it already. Im going to be me regardless…k? k!!!

As For Myself:

I will work on myself as an individual which will in turn better all situations  i am involved in. This year I will smile and laugh more than ever because I deserve to be happy and I will. All I can be is Sakeissa so take it or leave it but dont mess with it!

Im Simply Me; Simply Ke

 

 

2009 was quite a year but bye bye bye…

in the words of twitter…

#WEOFFTHAT

“Friends”

So let me first provide you all with the story. So this chick who I do not know adds me on facebook a while back; she then adds my boyfriend (apparently they know eachother), then deletes me. Now she’s sending all these texts always wondering what he’s doing for the night.

Now me, Im no fool by any means. First of all when she added me she was just being nosey trying to see what all she could gather from my facebook page. Then she deleted me when she felt she had all she wanted and her purpose for me was served; she deleted me to move in. Now males try to play this gullable roll, especially this one. He always try to say well she know I got a girl and she got a man.

Let me put you all on game real quick!!!

SOME FEMALES DONT CARE IF YOU GOT A GIRL. THEY GOT THAT “WHAT YA GIRL GOTTA DO WITH ME” MENTALITY

So ladies, all these females talking about they just trying to be your man’s “friend” thats all bullsh*t there aint no such thing. If she wasnt a “friend” before you she dont need to be one after you. This doesnt go for all females but the majority. Women are so sneaky and devious and as much as I hate to say it are extremely disrespectful.

Fellas, dont be gullable and dont try to brush your girl off by saying “she’s tripping” or “it aint like that” because when everything falls into place you’re gonna be sitting somewhere looking pitiful like a little puppy dog because your girl dumpped you. A woman has the best indicationwhen something is not right; her intuition . If you just dont care and you are messing with the other chick then be a damn man and let your girl go instead of hurting her. Also by doing so you’ll spare your pride from being hurt when she goes ham on ya ass.

Now some of yall may be reading this and thinking Im some crazy overly suspicious female. Nope, you’re wrong. I have been cheated on and betrayed by some of the closest women and men in my life. If this was a business I would be the CEO. Females cant be trusted; males arent short stopping either! Some females will smile all in your face be your bestie and lol at all the lame things you say but in the back of her mind she’s thinking, “ugggghhhhh shut up i just want your man.” Ladies we have to do better. A man will never respect a woman who comes at him that way and if he does its only a matter of time before the roles will be reversed.

I know some may be thinking if i dont trust my boyfriend then why am I with him. I do trust him to a certain extent; I dont put anything past anybody. You can never put too much faith in to anyone but the man upstairs. He is the only one garunteed to never hurt you.

I love my boyfriend dearly he’s a really great guy, keyword is “guy,” but I love myself more and will not tolerate disrespect on any level!

Beyonce said it best, “You better do something about this woman, or I will”

That person in the Mirror

In light of recent events I have come to the realization that I may need to re-evaluate the person that I am and some of the characteristics I exemplify. The other day my boyfriend and I had an extremely minor dispute, So we’re in the car driving and I swung on him approximately three times. I know that I was wrong. Honestly it happened before I could think about it. I am by no means proud of this what so ever; im actually kind of hurt and shocked that I got so angry.

I know some of you may be reading this and thinking that you dont have any issues that need work or that this is just something I have to deal with; that part you’re right about. However, Im sure there is something in each and every one of us that we are not particularly proud about. Mines just so happens to be my short temper. Lets take a moment, stop whatever you’re doing it doesnt matter right now. Look at yourself and say

“What about me can I change for the better before it harms me or someone else?”

Next ask,

“is it worth changing?”

The answer is yes and yes. Please people dont bullshit yourself. In my situation my anger issues is not worth loosing one of the people in my life that I love with my entire being. The time is now to find our issues and get them together before it is too late. Dont feel like its impossible there is no better time than the present. Stop worrying about the next person, f*ck them this is about you. Im sure they have something about themselves that they aren’t proud of as well. At this moment lets take time to better ourselves to ensure one’s happiness! Positivity is Key!

Michael Jackson said it best…

“Im starting with the man in the mirror, Im asking him to change his ways”

Nurturing Negative Thoughts

Its been a while, but im back!! So I attended a women’s conference with my boyfriends mother and I honestly got some valuable insight; hence this blog topic.

“Nurturing Negative Thoughts”

Regardless of how much we say or act as if certain things people say dont affect us. The truth of the matter is sometimes words can hurt and thats ok to a certain extent. We cannot and should not nurture negative thoughts. People always feel as if their opinion is wanted or furthermore needed.

You think im stuck up and you dont like me—thats fine but I dont need you talking sh*t all the damn time!

So you think he/she is gay—hello world its their life not yours; let them do what makes them happy!

You think my relationship is fake—PAUSE i dont remeber laying down and waking up to you!

People will always always always find something about you to criticize. When they do, brush it off. do not NURTURE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS for this can be your ultimate down fall. If there are people in your llife that have hurt you deal with the hurt and let it go. Dont harbor anger or mother negative thoughts because you are the one who continiuosly brinfs yourself down. Studies have proven that a large percentage of illnesses and chronic diseases are either caused or further progressed due to one’s emotional state. Noone is worth sacrificing your health; stop Nurturing Negative Thoughts!!

We all are guilty of keeping anger and frustration bundled up inside. As a result of this we appear as bitter and always angry people whether it be towards one person or several individuals. I personally can say that one situation in my life that I am angry and hurt by is beginning to cause me to lash out at other individuals involved in the situation but who are not the source of the problem. Im currently working on letting all my negative thoughts, hurt and anger go so that I can be more pleased with myself as a person. If we are unhappy withourselves then we cannot be happy with anyone else. The time is now to let go all the negative sh*t and think and live positvely. Happiness is yours; claim it!

These quotations are great summation of this blog.

“Being angry at someone is like you drinking poison and waiting for tem to die”-one of the ladies at the conference

“Positivity is a Necessity”-Farrah Fawcett